Maintain Respect for Your Spouse, Your Family, the Process, and Yourself
Mediation in Westchester County
Sometimes it is very difficult to understand that the person you fell in love with and married is now sitting on the other side of a table in a divorce process. You may have changed your feelings for this person, and that is a fairly common emotion for people, but it’s not healthy or good for anyone to show a lack of respect.
The divorce process itself is not perfect, but it is the best system we have and it works. The American system of justice, both criminal and civil, is superior to that of any other country and it is important that we while we may sometimes disagree with methods and decisions, we must respect it.
You may feel that your spouse has done terrible things and does not deserve your respect, that you have nothing to lose at this point by saying just what you want to say. Our advice is don’t.
A few basic conduct rules to observe and remain respectful:
- Do not make statements to others that may result in rumor or affect the listener’s relationship with your spouse.
- Do not argue in front of the children or place your children in uncomfortable situations.
- Do not hinder or interfere with your spouse’s employment situation.
- Do not act on impulse and attempt to punish your spouse for his or her conduct. Actions like this often backfire.
- Do not stalk your spouse by following him or her continually. Many states have laws against this.
- Do not intentionally do things that you know will aggravate your spouse.
The damage done by being disrespectful tends to spill over to everyone involved, including children and ultimately to yourself. Don’t allow the passion of the moment to damage your own reputation and self respect.
Keep in mind also that disrespectful behavior in court may lead to trouble including fines and imprisonment.
For our media sessions we insist on a mutually respectful environment. We pledge to always respect our clients and expect the same in return.
Mediation in Westchester County
Mediation works and we can sit down with you and explain the entire process. Please call us at 877-666-9601 to set up a confidential consultation.
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