Why we do Divorce Mediation Having been a therapist prior to becoming an attorney and also teaching law, I knew that, although I had the intellect for law, I did not wish to be part of the problem by making spouses/parents adversaries in a courtroom which litigation demands, but rather I wished to be part of the decent and compassionate solution when marriages became untenable or unbearable.   When I first passed the bar, before I opened my doors, I spent five months sitting in courtrooms … [Read more...] about Divorce Mediation – Why We Do What We Do

The art of peacemaking is a skill that is learned.  For some, it’s not a difficult skill to master.  For others, it might take considerable time and practice in developing, especially when you are dealing with the life-altering and difficult process of going through a divorce. For couples who are considering divorce and have even already made the step of speaking with a New York divorce lawyer or New Jersey Divorce lawyer, the thought of “peacemaking” in the current troubled waters might seem … [Read more...] about Considering Divorce Mediation: Here Are the Top Skills to Learn to Make the Process Easier

Divorce is difficult. There’s simply no easy way to end a marriage. Regardless of how straightforward the process is, it still takes time and an emotional toll on the participants. There are legal and financial consequences of divorce. Before you enter into divorce proceedings, you need to be certain that you’re prepared for what’s ahead. Start by making sure you know where you stand financially. Equitable distribution (both husband and wife share in the assets accumulated during the course of … [Read more...] about Contemplating Divorce – What to Do Now?

If you’re planning a divorce in New York State, here are the top ten things you should know. 1. New York is an equitable distribution state, meaning that all marital assets and property will be divided fairly between partners. Keep in mind that “fair” and “half” do not mean the same thing – you may receive more or less than your partner, depending on the circumstances. Divorce mediation can ensure that you receive your fair share of assets. Keep in mind that debts, as well as assets, will be … [Read more...] about Getting a Divorce in New York State – 10 Things You Should Know

For many couples, divorce is not seen as the end result of a failing relationship, but rather the beginning of a lengthy war with each other.  This is understandable; by the time divorce is seriously considered the relationship has obviously decayed, and the pent-up frustration and resentment can be toxic and poisonous.  It’s little wonder that many divorces commence in a spirit of total war and simply go downhill from there. However, divorce is not a war; it is a negotiated end to your legal … [Read more...] about 8 Keys To Resolving Divorce Conflict

No one enters into a marriage expecting it to end in divorce.  That’s why the whole process can be so disorienting and confusing.  People wonder how they ever got to this point and often blame themselves as much as they blame their partner.  In the midst of this confusion, it can be difficult if not impossible to make a coherent, reasoned decision concerning how to proceed with the legalities of ending the marriage.   A divorce can be litigated, collaborative, mediated or uncontested, and all of … [Read more...] about First Consultation Is To Help You Choose the Right Divorce Process

Mediation is becoming more and more common in divorce cases, as it frees up the courts and often saves time and money for all involved – in fact, divorce mediation is 90% effective in bringing both parties an agreement without the need for a lengthy, expensive and contentious proceeding.  However, many people become anxious about mediation sessions as it seems to threaten a return to the same old arguments and hurtful words that have become all too familiar.  The key to a successful divorce … [Read more...] about Important Steps In Preparing For A Successful Mediation